Through your unremitting efforts, you finally found your first arrangement date on the sugar dating website. Congratulations! You go on your first date with excitement and nervousness. However, maybe it's the awkwardness of the first date, the lack of chemistry between you and that potential sugar daddy or sugar baby, or something that just doesn't seem right. Either way, one thing is for sure: your first date failed, and now you're at a loss what to do next. How could something you were so excited about turn into an epic failure? The truth is, your first date isn't over yet, and you should give this terrible first date a chance. After all, there are so many things that can negatively impact the atmosphere of your first date, many of which are beyond one person's control. So, by doing it all over again (if you both agree), you give yourself (and your date) another chance to accurately evaluate whether there's anything worth pursuing.
Of course, not all bad first dates deserve a second chance. So, how do you tell them apart? Here are some tips to help you decide whether to give a second chance after your bad first arrangement date.
1. It's a stressful day It's not easy to be yourself in a stressful environment, whether it's from work or family. So, if your sugar daddy or sugar baby on your first date keeps mentioning the stress they're going through, give them a chance to start over. If they have a fender bender or get fired before the date, chances are the date won't work. When they get over the trauma, no one is the best version of themselves. So, you should understand them, and by getting to know them on a second date, you'll be more likely to get a clear picture of the person without having to go through a hectic or frustrating situation.
2. Both of you are uncomfortable If the first date happens to be uncomfortable for you or your date, whether it's a cold, whether it's a stuffy nose, whether it's a bad cough, whether it's a general feeling of bad health, but you still stick with the first date, chances are your date's overall vibe will suffer. Especially if your body is full of antibiotics, antihistamines, and other medications that have side effects, it can also have a negative effect on your behavior. Also, when a person is sick or uncomfortable, their focus is usually not on the date, but on how they feel. So if the amount of snot you're producing ACTS as an obvious downer, you might want to start over. When you both feel 100 percent good, you should enjoy the date, not cough up your lungs.
3. Nerves gripped the night If you're nervous all the time on a first date, you won't have much chemistry. Yes, it's normal to feel a little nervous on a first date, but if you overdo it, it can get in the way of chemistry with the potential sugar daddy or sugar baby you're dating. Listen, if you or your date are really nervous and create awkward moments by repeatedly saying the wrong thing or dropping a fork, give them and yourself another chance. After all, many people are anxious about a first date.
If being overly stressed means you may be in a state of heightened self-awareness, it makes it hard to be yourself. Nor will it make it easy to have a genuine, free conversation. The bottom line is, you may not want to give up yet. After all, we may not be at our best when factors beyond our control -- like illness, stressful events or nerves -- are at work. When one or both of you are off, it is almost impossible to assess the atmosphere between you.
Plus, if you don't know what the other person is thinking, a second date is also a great idea to get to know the other person better. You may be surprised to find that second dates confirm your first date instincts. Or, you find that the second situation will make you realize that this person is great and that you just had a bad date with him.
4. It was just an unpleasant evening Maybe you brag to your friends about your date and it looks like that person has everything you want, but the date fizzled out. If things don't live up to your initial expectations, you should definitely consider giving them a second chance, treating the first date as if it was just a bad night, and then moving on. There's always the chance that neither of you is the best person for you. If you've been looking for someone with this quality, try again. Sometimes a bad date is not a harbinger of the future. It was just a bad date.
In addition, you may also need to consider the nature of the date you are planning, as this may affect how things go. For example, if the last time you met for a drink, they didn't really enjoy it, try setting up a no-alcohol date, but also chat, such as going for a walk in the park or visiting a museum. Or, if you're having dinner with them at a steakhouse and they're actually vegetarian, cater to their eating habits and consider trying something different next time.
If you're feeling nervous preparing for your first meeting with a sugar daddy or sugar baby, try taking a deep breath to make sure you're prepared and as relaxed as possible. Give yourself plenty of time to get ready and arrive early. Before you meet your date, smile and remember you're all here for fun! Also remember that giving another date is no guarantee that the next one will be better. However, it does mean that you don't always have to wonder what's going to happen, and that it's up to you to explore. Either you'll find that you and your date actually have a spark, or you'll walk away with no regrets. Anyway, know that you're giving a real shot!